If you, my dear reader, possess a y chromosome—that blessed scientific distinction given to the males of our species—then I’m no doubt preaching to the boy choir. You already understand the value of staying focused on a task until its completion. And you’ve been horribly maligned over the years by those of us deprived of the y factor.
We women have trained each other up to expect superhuman things from our bodies, our minds, and our time. In search of perfection, we have learned to want more, do more, be more. And in the process, we’ve lost the beautiful ability to single-mindedly enjoy anything we’re doing at any one point in time. Because we’ve learned the multi-tasking lesson so well in fact, we now require un-training to become mindful again.
This week, regardless of your gifts of gender, I encourage you to slow down and ask yourself if you’re trying to do too much.
Are you holding stress in your body as tension? Would you be better served (and in turn, serve better) if you could alleviate the stress that’s causing you pain?
Are you racing from one commitment to another? Are those appointments and obligations attached to things which bring you joy? Or have you simply said “yes” because of a need to feel needed?
Do you find yourself giving away your compassion and energy to perfect strangers, yet returning home to your loved ones drained, angry, or resentful?
Can you no longer physically hold the list of all the things you must get done this week? Or do you find yourself balancing not only your own schedule but those of your family members as well?
Perhaps it’s time to purge those “urgent but not important” tasks which no longer bring you joy—being called at the last minute when someone else’s agenda decides to claim your own, rushing to the bank and post office and store at five minutes to closing because it was put off too late, or cramming a week’s worth of work into the day before vacation.
In doing so, you’ll open up room for the types of activities that are “important but not urgent”—those bucket list items and recurring resolutions like “go for long walks,” “learn a new language,” “write a book,” “learn to dance,” or “run a marathon.” The types of activities that can bring you long-term joy and a feeling of personal satisfaction…
If writing a book is on your “important but not urgent” list, I’d love to help you discover ways to carve out time from your busy schedule to find true pleasure in writing, and to share those amazing stories with a world who needs to hear them. Just send up a flare by email, phone, or text, and I’ll drop a rescue net to you… just as soon as I finish mono-tasking my previous commitment. 😊
Wishing you a week filled with bliss!