What Story Are You Telling Yourself?


On my walk today, I was listening to a podcast from DailyAlchemy.com, by my friend Michelle Martin Dobbins. She was talking about a trip her family had recently taken and how she and the kids were referring to it as “the best trip ever.”

They got to see amazing things, like a museum visit in Chicago that featured her eldest daughter’s favorite artist (plus they found out about a membership special that would allow them to get early access so they didn’t have to wait in long lines), they serendipitously found the best restaurants for every meal, and even the rainy days coincided with times they were exhausted and could just use a good nap.

But then she went on to point out that in addition to these wonderful aspects, other not-so-miraculous things happened during this “best trip ever” that could have derailed them. Just before departure day, her husband got sick and couldn’t travel with them. Not hospital-level sick, I suspect, but also not ready to hop on a plane and play tourist 24/7 for a week. A cross-state train trip encountered a collapsed or flooded bridge, so they had to disembark and take a 4-hour bus ride to their destination. And the list went on.

The takeaway message of course, is that as humans, we get to frame our stories in whichever manner we choose. Like Michelle, I opt to stay focused on the highlights, while others I know dwell in the low-lights, trying to one-up each other about how bad they have it. (Or does that make it “one-down” each other?)

For you as a writer, I challenge you to think about how you view your creative time. Are you constantly telling yourself you don’t have enough time to write the book you’ve always dreamed of? Or moaning that building an author platform on social media is sucking up all your writing time? Are you listing out reasons why you can’t ____ (fill in the blank)? Or why so-and-so has it easier than you? If only your life could be like theirs, everything would just magically fall into place?

Guess what, friend… you have the power to create positive change. And it starts with how you frame your story. Not your book this time, but your story. The story of YOU.

As it turns out, it’s possible to write a pretty amazing book in just 15 minutes a day over the course of 6 months. No one else wakes up with more hours in a day than you, they just allocate them differently. And when you begin to see social media as a way to connect with fans who ADORE your writing and who can’t wait to read your next book, that will feel pretty darn fun, too!

What ways have you found to supercharge your mindset when you start to feel down? I’d love it if you’d reply and share a couple of insights. I’ll repost them in a future issue so together we can raise each other up on the path to creating our “best writing ever!”

And if you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, I’d also encourage you to reach out. I have room to take on a couple new coaching students beginning mid-April, and it would be my honor to help you find not only the strongest ways to write your book, but more powerful ways to frame your life and writing.

It’s time for you to write with joy!
Comment below to share your personal tips!

One Comment on “What Story Are You Telling Yourself?”

  1. It may sound trite, but if I’m feeling down, I can snap myself out of it by thinking of all I have. There are people who are blind; I have the gift of sight to behold a beautiful sunset or a baby’s smile. There are people who are completely deaf; I can hear the music of the masters and a bird’s sweet song. There are people who have taken their last breath; I have life. I have breath. I have choices, and today I choose to be happy.

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